I am a 24-year-old guy and I love my aunt who is 30 years old. How should I tell her?

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Mudassir Ali 7 months 1 Answer 104 views

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  1. Hmm…quite a few interesting answers here, but I’ll play the devil’s advocate just for the heck of it.

    I don’t know the details of your situation, so these are the questions that I might have:

    How is the relationship between the two of you? Easygoing, friendly, meet and talk often? OR reserved, shy, closed, etc?
    Her relationship status. Is she single, Or, do you have a feeling or know that she might be seeing some one?
    What is it that you love about her? Her looks, physique, OR the conversations that you have with her, her intellect, her humor, etc, OR, a combination of both?
    The ease of taking the relationship or affair forward if things go your way. Would you be able to talk to her, meet her without any hassle, or will you have to go trough a lot of trouble every time?
    The risk. Are you willing to go the distance with the possible shame, ridicule, if things don’t go your way? Is she worth it?
    If the answer to the 1st question is the former option i presented, that’s a bonus. That’s a good start. If it is the latter, try talking to her more often and see if she opens up. If she doesnt despite your repeated attempts, I’d say you give up here.

    If the answer to the 2nd question, and you should be very sure of this, the former option, that is another bonus, and things are really looking good for you thus far.

    It doesn’t quite matter what your answer to the 3rd question is, but it would be a lot easier for you if its the former option. If, on the other hand, your desire for her is non sexual, then well, you are looking for a serious and steady relationship with her, and I wish you the best of luck. However, if it is just for her looks and physique and you want to get physical, that can be a bonus, BUT, if things work out, you HAVE to tell yourself that that is where your infatuation starts, and that is where it will end. If you go beyond that, then you might find yourself looking at frustration, or, like I said earlier, a steady relationship with all the trouble that it could entail.

    The answer to the 4th question is very important. If there will be a hassle and problem in seeing or talking to her, it will lead to a lot of frustration and fights. Avoid it if it is. If there wont be a problem, then all the better.

    Lastly, ask yourself…is she worth the risk? What if she rejects you and your closest relatives get to know? Would you be able to deal with that?

    My suggestion is such:

    You only get to live once, bro. So many times when people say one should take chances and not regret later of missing them….I totally agree. I let so many slip by myself, and I regret them. Don’t be that guy. Yes, once or twice, there was ridicule too, but with a little time all that washes away, trust me. You do know how every politician, sportsperson, celebrity gets ridiculed, but a week later its as if nothing happened. Right? There are bigger problems in the world, and everyday, something or the other overshadows something else. I say go for it. But not just like that. Take it slow…start talking to her more often, compliment her, get her small gift here and there, and see the signs. Is she appreciative? Try passing a flirtatious comment or message here and there to her and see her reaction. Build from there. Take it slow, build it up.

    And then one day when the two of you are close, and preferably alone, just hold her hand and kiss her. And then tell her you love her. She will resist a little, she will tell you it’s wrong, but you will tell her its right. Learn the art of persuasion.

    Now get to work, and tell me how things go.

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